Cbc why men lie

So in that sense it is quite unprecedented. The second thing, though, is that on the "bright side" now that we have online dating apps and all the texting that follows there is a long evidentiary trail that one can show in court. So it's no longer simply "he said, she said" but rather "he wrote, she wrote. Going back to the woman She describes how how much she wanted to believe him.

He knew how to play her, he knew what to give her. He was seeing her a couple of times a week for months and, she finds out later, seeing other women as well. But even when she started to get suspicious she didn't want to believe it. So isn't that part of it, that people who are on these sites want to believe the lies? I think that human psychology is complex, certainly, and people's motivations and wants are going to vary.

But I also think there's a lot of victim blaming going on in this area. And then to the other thing, I've heard a number of people say, "Aren't the victims just stupid? But there are a number of other things where I think we shouldn't be so hard on people and we should also ask ourselves: "If it was really something "wrong" with a person, how come this is happening to so many people? Yet lying is something we all do, often without even realizing it. IDEAS producer Nicola Luksic looks at our instinct to lie, why we do it, how we teach children to do the same -- and why it can sometimes be a good thing.

Being honest is one of our most cherished virtues. And yet, people lie all the time. It turns out that lying is part of a complex social survival strategy. In some situations, we may have to tell lies to achieve that goal. That's why we should not blindly think that honesty is the only policy.

He makes a distinction between 'pro-social' lies and malicious ones. Pro-social lies are those that help grease the wheels for positive social interactions. They're otherwise known as 'little white lies'. Why Men Lie tells the story of Effie MacAskill, an independent woman in her 50s who attracts the attention of two men from a circle of friends she knew during her youth in Cape Breton.

One man is her ex-husband Sextus, a serial philanderer, while the other is J. Both men are facing the problems of middle age and trying to work their way through the loss of strength and virility that can occur with age. MacIntyre said this was one of his major themes. You watch all the things that define manhood and virility and masculinity — all these important things that sometimes define the whole man — you watch them suddenly wobble a bit," he says. As to the book's title, it's not a question Effie ever fully understands.

However, MacIntyre points to ways all the men in her life have lied, for good or ill, to get what they want. He began to reply "fine" when people asked him how he was doing. When he got into arguments, instead of asking for an apology based on a list of slights, he'd try to pretend it didn't happen. But they're human beings. They want to have a positive social vibe. And that lying was what I needed," said Leviton. And even if I didn't feel that way.

Today Leviton said that his life — with just a bit of polite lying and better timing with the truth — is immeasurably better. Pseudonyms will no longer be permitted. By submitting a comment, you accept that CBC has the right to reproduce and publish that comment in whole or in part, in any manner CBC chooses. Please note that CBC does not endorse the opinions expressed in comments. Comments on this story are moderated according to our Submission Guidelines.

Comments are welcome while open. We reserve the right to close comments at any time. Join the conversation Create account. Already have an account? He grew up with a strict code of honesty. Tapestry He grew up with a strict code of honesty. It played havoc with his life Michael Leviton grew up in a household where speaking your mind and being truthful were the highest virtues. He had to deal with the consequences of his truths.